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Every position guide ever written rates its entries out of five. Skill level three. Difficulty four. It is the most confident thing on the page and it is measuring nothing, because difficulty is not a property of a position — it is a property of a position and two specific bodies, and the guide has never met either of them.
A configuration that one couple finds effortless is impossible for the couple with a nine-inch height difference, and trivial again for the couple where the taller partner has the stronger shoulders. The number out of five is decoration. What it papers over is a short list of variables that genuinely decide the outcome, none of which are secret and most of which nobody writes down.
The variables the rating hides
Who is carrying weight, and for how long. Any position where one person supports the other is limited by that person's endurance, not by anyone's flexibility. Endurance runs out abruptly, and it runs out under someone else's body — which is the mechanism behind most of the undignified accidents in this area. If a configuration needs holding, it needs a plan for what happens when the holding stops.
Height difference. This is the single most underrated constraint in standing and kneeling arrangements, and it is not fixable by trying harder. It is fixable by furniture: a step, a couch arm, a bed at the right height. Half the positions that get described as advanced are ordinary ones performed at the wrong altitude.
Who controls depth and pace. Every configuration hands that control to one person, and which one it is changes the experience far more than the shape does. It is worth knowing in advance which of you it will be, particularly for anything new.
Joint tolerance. Knees, hips, lower back, wrists. People know their own and rarely mention them, and a position guide cannot possibly know. If something is going to be a problem, it is usually predictable from ordinary life — if kneeling on a hard floor is unpleasant at other times, it will be unpleasant here too.
Whether you can see each other's face, and whether you can talk. Some positions make both difficult. That is fine and sometimes the point, but it means the signalling has to be arranged some other way, and for anything unfamiliar that matters more than the mechanics.
Run a new configuration past those five and you will know more than any rating out of five could have told you.
More than two people is a logistics problem, not a position
Guides describe three-person configurations as though the hard part were the geometry. The geometry is the easy part.
The hard part is agreed in advance: who is doing what with whom, what is off the table, how anyone says stop in a way the other two will hear, and — the one people skip — what the arrangement is between the two people who arrived together, afterwards. That last conversation decides how the evening is remembered far more often than anything physical does.
Practical points that follow from that: agree the shape before anyone is undressed, agree that any person can end it without a negotiation, and treat barrier use and its changes between partners as settled beforehand rather than improvised. If a group configuration is on the table, the bedroom games guide covers the same skill — talking about it beforehand — in a lower-stakes setting, which is a reasonable place to practise.
Sex over a video call
This became normal for a reason and has stayed normal, and the practical issues are entirely different from anything physical.
Anything on a screen can be recorded, at both ends, and no platform setting prevents someone pointing a second device at a monitor. That is the whole risk model. It means the sensible precautions are the boring ones: know who is on the call, keep identifying detail out of frame — faces, tattoos, the view from the window, anything on a wall — and understand that consumer video platforms have their own conduct rules that change and get enforced, so a service that permits this today may not next year.
If the appeal is watching rather than being watched, the cam sites section covers the side of it where the performer is a professional who has decided to be on camera, which is a materially different arrangement from a private call.
The one that is not a position at all
The original's closing entry was oral sex with the receiving partner standing, presented as a position. What it was actually describing is stopping just short of orgasm and starting again, which has nothing to do with anyone's posture and works from any arrangement.
It is worth separating those two things, because the interesting part is the signalling: the person giving has to read when to stop, and the person receiving has to say so, out loud, repeatedly, in a state not known for clear speech. Agreeing on a word or a gesture beforehand is the whole technique. Everything else is preference.
What to actually change in January
Not the catalogue. If something in your sex life is not working, the variables above are where the answer usually is — height, control, endurance, joints, whether you can hear each other — and none of those get fixed by adding a fourth new position to a rotation of three.